Peaceful Retired Life – 13 “Will My Attitude Decide My happiness”

By – Rajendran Sivaramapillai

Will My Attitude Decide My Happiness?

Almost all retired people invariably give a gloomy look at times, in fact a deadly combination of all negative emotions at the same time, often looking lost in the desert. Invariably spouse will ask, “What happened to you and the standard reply, “Nothing I am alright?” She knows you are on the road to self-criticism. Even simple deviations in everyday life seem to affect us so much mentally. How to come out of this melancholy mood? Yes! It all depends on your attitude? What my attitude? Yes. What is attitude then? In simple terms it all depends on “How we react to a particular situation”

Please remember what is happening to us in life all through is just 10% and 90% it is how we react, our attitude towards the event. What is happening to us (10%) we have absolutely no control but how we react (90%) is within my control. Yes as per the third law of motion, “Every action there is equal and opposite reaction”. This is so true even in human relationship also.

But amongst chemicals action-reaction may be spontaneous but in human relationship there is a minute time gap. In that gap we can decide what kind of reaction, whether reaction (spontaneous) or pro-action (taking own time to select appropriate action). Always remember you are not most vulnerable and be aware of the thinking that “People do not respect if you do not react immediately”. In majority of the cases our people can predict very accurately how we react? During active service it may look spouse may even warn the children but after retirement it may look even our dog may give a casual look. No doubt action everyone can predict but pro-action no one even your spouse may not be used to it. Always take your sweet time and decide whether to react or pro-act. Please remember ability to take spontaneous decision has already retired and now you have enough time with you. That decides often “How happy your days that follow”. There is a secret way. How to avoid triggering any action? There is a powerful pro-active weapon called “Mouthful” Let us meet again to talk about “Mouthful”

Source: https://www.speakingtree.in/blog/peaceful-retired-life-13-will-my-attitude-decide-my-happiness

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